Me and Myself: FRIENDS

Now, I've thought about tagging or classifying my posts. For instance, "me and myself" tag would say that it's a very personal view or close to my heart, "My journey in India" says that's a travel blog, and likewise.. Enough for the prologue, continue reading....

FRIENDS...

There are too many topics to write on friendship/friends but I'll write about one thing which is orthogonal to friendship but has great impact on friendship.
It's FATE/LIFE.

Yes, your fate choses friends for you, or to be more placid, you dont chose friends but your life chooses them for you. Imagine what would have happened to you if you had not got into the college you studied, or had not worked for the firm that you had worked or have been working.. As with other teenagers, I had wished to get into one of the best colleges for graduation. It didnt work out and I had to choose what came to me. And now if I look back and ponder over what has happened to me, I dont regret. It's the same with everybody. More than the college, what lingers in your heart is the friendship you've made. Not the college's reputation, nor the lecturers, nor the top rankers of college, but your old dear friends who shared their life with you and made your life a happier thing are the ones who make your heart skip its beat.

As seasons and years pass by, you obviously add new friends to your circle, spend time with new ones more than the old ones-which again is what life has chosen for you. Naturally, the priorities keep changing, and that's inevitable. One such change is finding a partner (I bring in this just for the sake of one friend- naresh aka krishna chaitanya; he'd been waiting for my view on friendship). Though it looks a bit odd for the old friends who have been with a guy since college/childhood, the introduction of newer friends is part of life, just that this one is special than other new friends. This is the time one has to make a correct balance of his relationships and friendships. Of course, it begins shaky with respect to the balance, but friends get used to that and the guy himself too; so, both would co-exist seamlessly after a while, which is the best thing to happen to anybody. There couldn't be any other gift to a person than a balanced life between family and friends.

To conclude, as some good person said, there are different kinds of friends.

There are a few who are for moments. you needed their help at some instance, and they were with you. Perhaps life had different plans you haven't met them since. Another example, you visit a few relatives - may be for marriages or for yearly festivals. And may be you like a few of them most. You'd have great time with them but you'd leave them after that festival, and proceed with your daily routine in which they don't have place. But deep down in your heart you have a special feeling for them, a special concern, but life's such a way that you don't get to show that always. It's strange but true, and there are some friends who are meant to be like that.

There are few other friends who are for seasons. They are your friends in school, college, workplace with whom you had wonderful time but again life's taken you to different places since then.

AND THERE ARE A FEW FRIENDS WHO ARE FOR LIFE. you met them sometime in the past (or you are bound to meet a few in future :P), and haven't left you since then. They were with your for moments, seasons, years and they are with you now. Whether they would be with you for ever is for time to decide.

A person's greatness is not by the virtue of his affluence, but his friends. If you could have a couple of friends who could stand by you when the whole world stands against, you'd be the happiest person on the earth. Never give up on friendship. If life takes you far from a friend, try making conscious effort of keeping the flame burning; life gets him back for you when you need him most.

Finding new friends is easy; keeping the friends for ever is challenging, and is very satisfying. Sit back and relish the friendship you've enjoyed with your friends!!!


EPILOGUE: There was a break in my writing this post between the first and and the rest paras. Let me know with your comments if there is any lapse in the mood or flow.